Trivia about ME

I lifted this from Schuyler's blog, http://waynforth.blogspot.com/

1. Full name?
Sandra Lynn Dodd (used to be Adams)

2. Were you named after anyone?
Not the Sandra—mom just liked it and said "it's not 'Sandy'." My dad's dad was Lynn Adams, no middle initial. Dad was Kirby Lynn Adams. Holly got the Lynn in our family, so she's the fourth "Lynn" but only my Papaw Adams was called "Lynn," not counting that in Texas I was "Sandra Lynn" to relatives.

3. Are you married?
Yes, 21 years, plus six years of living together before that.

4. When did you last cry?
Watching Desperate Housewives scene when Lynette is crying on the soccer field because she feels like a terrible mom and Bree and Susan tell her they were overwhelmed too, when their children were little. Lynette said something like "Why didn't you tell me? We need to tell each other these things." I got tears in my eyes and I felt myself holding my breath. And I had seen the scene before.

5. Do you like your handwriting?
Yes. I swiped the best parts from Joseph Garcia's writing in high school. His was better, but it helped mine.

6. What is your favorite lunch?
Can't decide; not particular. Fish sandwich at Burger King is nice. Curry chicken salad from Raley's is great.

7. Where is your favorite place to eat lunch out?
Maybe Golden Pride, with someone else to hang out and talk to. Company makes lunch nice.

8. Names and ages of kids:
Kirby (19), Marty (17) and Holly (14)

9. If you were another person would you be friends with you?
Depends what kind of other person I was.

10. Do you have a journal?
No. I write lots, but it's scattered out in personal correspondence and various public internet places.

11. Do you use sarcasm a lot?
Used to with familiar friends when I was younger. It's rarer now. Sometimes with Marty, for fun. He zings back merrily.

12. Would you bungee jump?
No. Not an adrenaline junkie; not jockish; not adventurous.

13. What is your favorite cereal?
Bite-sized frosted mini-wheats.

14. Do you untie your shoes when you take them off?
Those with ties, yeah.

15. Do you think that you are strong?
Some ways; not physical.

16. What is your favorite ice cream?
Something with hot fudge on it.

17. Favorite TV Show?
Boston Legal

18. Red or Pink?
Red

19. What is your least favorite thing about yourself?
Desire for people to use English better. I wish I knew and cared less about that sometimes.

20. Who do you miss most?
It changes. Some will be back around periodically; some exist well in memory and letters and photos.

21. Do you want everyone you send this to send it back?
Nah.

22. What color pants and shoes are you wearing?
blue flip-flops, blue denim jeans

24. What are you listening to right now?
Boston Legal DVD, second episode, season 1.

25. If you were a crayon, what color would you be?
Green!

26. Last person you got an e-mail from?
Someone who wants to reprint my Deschooling article. I hoped for an e-mail from a high school friend; maybe today.

**What Happened to #27??***
It's right here, unlike #23.

28. The first thing you notice about the opposite sex?
I never thought about it. Carriage/posture, I guess.

29. Do you like the person who sent this to you?
It wasn't sent, it was acquired, like a venereal disease, sort of [Schuyler wrote that; I agree]

30. Favorite Drink?
tea

31. Favorite Sport to Watch?
I don't watch any.

32. Hair Color?
brown getting grey

33. Eye Color?
brown

34. Do you wear contacts?
No. I wouldn't mind, but I don't need them.

35. Favorite Food?
Potatoes. My third grade teacher, Miss Brown, gave a pro-potato speech once, and convinced me they were the greatest food. It had something to do with history and variety, too, her speech.

36. Scary Movies or Happy Endings?
Happy. 37. Last movie you watched?
The Breakup, with Holly

38. Favorite Day of the Year:
Christmas No, Christmas Eve

39. Summer or winter?
Winter.

40. Hugs or Kisses?
Either, neither or both. Spontaneity and honesty.

41. Favorite dessert? Not particular.

42. Who Is Most Likely To Respond?
43. Least likely to respond?
It's not by e-mail so n/a.

44. What's On Your Mouse Pad?
Brown suede kind of thing.

45. What's On Your Screensaver?
A sheepherder's wagon, with a kitchen in back like a chuckwagon—a photo I took when Marty and I went to ghost towns in southwestern New Mexico. This wagon is in Shakespeare. Behind us were buildings.


Oh wait... that's the desktop.
Screensaver is a collection of green tree photos that came with the Mac

46. What Did You Watch on TV last night?
Nothing. Watched the Tony Awards the night before that.

47. Rolling Stones or Beatles? Beatles

48. What's the furthest you've been from home?
Bridlington, in NE England

Flowers and Thoughts

Unlike most of the things in my yard, I paid money for these day lilies. Last spring I put them in and they bloomed a little , but were short. I didn't know they'd get so tall. The other day there were 12 blooms at once. They're pretty anyway, but against the turquoise truck they're especially nice. They're called "fulva." I've already gotten my money's worth, and there will be more of them as the years go by.

The years go by, unevenly, in bursts of speed and in long quiet pauses. Maybe some people's time passage is smooth and even, but mine never has been. One hour will seem to pass in an instant while another is big enough to do nineteen things. I don't mind.

3:33 and I'd rather be asleep. I hear the TV on in Kirby's room, up above. It's not too loud at all, the world is just relatively quiet. It was too hot to sleep, and I was dreaming lots of little jittery dreams. I don't mind that either; the night before this I slept long and hard.

Yesterday Kirby called me on the way back from work wanting a haircut. He said he was nearly home. I arranged a hair cutting set-up and started right away, because he was scheduled to be somewhere at 3:00 to help choreograph a sword fight scene for a film a friend is doing, and after that he had to go straight to the cast party of the film he was just in, which is also local, independent and totally unrelated. He wanted his hair buzzed off. There's a pirate photo down below that shows how long it was.

I had cleaned up the room and was taking the vacuum cleaner apart because it had stopped working. Pulled out some impressive wads of Kirby-hair just as Marty arrived, wanting a haircut. So I put another sheet on Keith's desk chair and got the stuff out that I had just put away. I don't like cutting their hair, but they like me to. I don't know why; I messed Marty's up so it's shorter than he'd wanted. Luckily they inherited hair-grow-like-crazy from both parents. Kirby's is lots like my dad's—thick and heavy textured. Marty's is a little like my sister's and husband's—lighter and curlier.

Kirby called from the cast party. I had asked him to see if the Matthew DePaula who's the star of the movie is related to John DePaula I grew up with. Yep, his nephew. That's so cool—another welcome denial to my claim that Kirby was working on a movie with people I knew nothing of. I've never met Matthew, but now I suppose I might at some point. His dad's a bit older than I am, but we know each other a little, and the brother my age I've known since we were seven. We had many adventures together, over the years, and his family was one of the greatest I've seen. There's another brother my sister's age, and then an adopted sister. Their dad, Felix, was from Queens NY and their mom from Trinidad CO. They had a WWII romance of some sort and settled in Española, which was good for Española. I'm glad to have known them, and seeing how they were with their kids helped me be a better mom. I remember their house well, and the safe and peaceful feeling it always had.

When I'm gone my kids will probably still have some of those flowers, and some kindness I picked up from families like the DePaulas and some better haircuts.

I'm Jealous of my Cats

I've been sleepy and restless, and that's not a good combination. I envy the cats.

Marty usually works from 6:30 til 3:00, but he comes home at 10:30 for lunch. He didn't. Just before 3:00 Holly wanted me to take her to Taco Bell, so we stopped by the store where Marty works to see if he wanted to go or for us to get him something. Holly went inside but couldn't find him. We went on. When we got home he wasn't home. When his dad got home at 4:15 he wasn't home, so by then I was sure he was dead, or kidnapped. Holly didn't think so but she went along with it. Keith didn't think so, and he walked up to the store to see.

Turns out Marty had been asked to do a special project for more money, after three hours of work. He ate there, mid-afternoon, kept working, and had worked altogether 11 hours by the time he got home. Then he went off to SCA fighter practice with Keith.

Meanwhile, Kirby went to the dentist by himself after work. That's not a big deal. They told him he owed them $140 and he paid them. That's a big deal, and I don't think it was right, and Keith or I will call tomorrow and ask why. But what's really cool is that Kirby could afford to give the dentist $140. (We'll pay him back in any case, and figure out if it was a legitimate charge.)

Except for driving Holly to Taco Bell and making cookies and spaghetti sauce, I've done very little today, and yet I still want to sleep like a cat. They never even knew Marty was gone. They might be surprised to learn Kirby even has a debit card.

Kirby, my oldest

Kirby, my oldest, will be 20 years old this summer. He still lives with us, and I'm glad. This weekend the rest of the family was off at Grand Outlandish, a big SCA campout not too far from us. Kirby would probably have gone, but he had two more pressing things. He was a groomsman in a big wedding in Santa Fe, and he's one of the main characters in a film being made here called "In Character," about gamers. He took two weeks off work for the filming. Rehearsals could be worked in around work and karate, for several weeks, but the filming schedule was tight and except for them scheduling his scenes to allow for his wedding-party duties, he worked every day for the past week and more. The morning after the wedding, he had a 4:00 a.m. call. Luckily, it was at the gaming shop where he used to work, which is just a mile away.     Kirby, more piratical than usual, with his friend Beth: I worry. I worry that he will be inefficient or miss being somewhere. Except for being late for the rehearsal dinner (which was in a little community southeast of Santa Fe where he'd never been, and he left too late and then got a bit lost), though, he's been on time or early. My worry only hurt me and didn't help him at all. He sets his alarm and gets to the places he needs to be. The wedding was at Bishop's Lodge, north of Santa Fe. The meet-up with the groom and other groomsmen was at the Hotel St. Francis, south of the Plaza. The rehearsal dinner, the day before, was in El Dorado, practically to Glorieta. The filming was at a different place every day, some restaurant or university building or dorm room. I worried, but on the other hand, every day I knew where he was, and he has a cellphone. Holly took some acting classes, and participated in a couple of plays otherwise, when she was younger, but Kirby never was interested or was too busy. Friends of his got him involved in this movie (a full-length indie film by locals who've done shorter things for festivals before), and he seems to be having a good time with it. From my point of view (as that's where I am and how I see), this is big in a couple of ways. It's the first thing he's ever done that didn't involve me in the least. I haven't met a single other person involved in it. So that's a social landmark of some sort. And it's the kind of real-world opportunity I love to see happen, and I had absolutely nothing to do with it. Interesting. Vaguely uncomfortable, and I don't know for sure why, but also solidly wonderful. Kirby and I watch the TV series 24 together. It's over for the season. He's way behind on his social life and his World of Warcraft, because of the wedding and movie doings, and he goes back to work tomorrow. I might never hear many stories about the wedding or the acting experiences. I'm becoming peripheral in his life. I knew it would happen, and it's happening pretty painlessly. All this flurry of activity, though, comes the week after Jack Bauer once again saved the world (or at least the U.S., or at least southern California). And this was cool: Last Monday Kirby told me the filmmakers were TIVOing 24 and he could watch it with them after the day's filming, but I should not forget to watch it. The last two hours, and I would watch alone. But it was understandable, and nice of him to have reminded me. Then, though, they were ahead of schedule, and though another friend had asked him to dinner, he said yes, IF he could be home before 7:00 to watch 24 with me. And that was nice. So he worked filming from about 6:00 in the morning to 5:30 or 6:00, went for Sushi with other-Brett (a.k.a. hyphenated Brett, who isn't Brett Henry/real Brett, cowboy Brett), and then watched 24 with me for two hours. Not so many moms of nineteen-year-old sons had as good a day last Monday, I figure. ••••••••••••••• Later note: Holly read this and says I have met two of the people involved in the movie. One who's doing tech and props is someone I've known nearly her whole life, and one of the actors was at a party here a couple of years ago. I don't remember him. I haven't seen anyone involved in the movie—Kirby drives himself and hasn't brought any of them over, though eight or ten of them went to see X-Men together the other midnight, and Marty went too. Still doesn't involve me. Info about the movie is here: http://angrytikimovies.com/

Just a little sick

"Just a little sick" has so many disadvantages! I feel slow-witted and tire easily, and am short tempered and sleepy, but I have no dramatic symptoms to signal others that I'm sick. Worse than that, I have none to signal myself. I keep forgetting I just don't feel very good. It's too hot, and windy. Keith, Marty and Holly are leaving for a long weekend for a big SCA campout I used to not even consider optional, but now I have no interest in that. (That's not a symptom of being a little sick; I quit going to Grand Outlandish a few years ago.) Kirby's really busy being in a film these days. I hear him upstairs getting ready to go, and it's 5:30 in the morning.

But the good thing about this feeling of unsettleness and low-level vague discomfort is that it so often comes just before a burst of happy activity. And being just vaguely sick reminds me that sometimes the very best thing to do is just breathe consciously and think lighter, healthier thoughts. It doesn't cure everything, but it makes that moment a little better, and enough better moments seem to make the sky bigger.

I'm glad to have my family around me, and if my little sickness can be the worst thing today, that's fantastic!!

Last night I missed getting in the hot tub with Keith. I thought he was waiting for me. He thought I had said I didn't want to. It wasn't *too* sad, but the reason I was late was that Marty was asking me about Russia, and the Soviet Union, and the Ukraine, and why people didn't talk about that much, and the cold war, and space race, and WWII, and how what we call USSR they had called CCCP, and that what we call US, in French and Spanish is EU (and I didn't even think to wonder until just now how in French and Spanish they indicate "the European Union"). That conversation with Marty involved dusting off a globe and getting out a packet of "Barq's Soviet Stuff." We got two, but I only found one, and it was missing the temporary tattoo of Gorbachev's birthmark. The other, with the tattoos, is probably in the box of stuff for Kirby to have when he moves out. When the Soviet Union dissolved, Barq's Rootbeer offered little packets of real Soviet stuff (lapel or hat pins, ribbons for rallies, stamps) if you sent in some labels or parts of cardboard cartons from rootbeer or something. We got two. Should've (of course, the packrat in me says loudly) gotten more!

Pirate Party

Holly's half-birthday hair and her own self

HollyHair
Originally uploaded by SandraDodd.

I just love Holly gigantically and swirlingly. Marty was commenting yesterday on how grown she is. I'm glad I am filled with memories of all ages of Holly, and we had many moments together, from the time she first came out to see the world. She makes my life sparkle.